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Infidelity Investigation

Spying On A Lover

If you have your suspicions that your partner is having an affair, but for your own peace of mind you need to be sure about the infidelity, investigation is an option but, before you go out and hire a private investigator, make sure that you know what you are getting yourself in to. There is no doubt that infidelity is one of the hardest things anyone ever has to go through and the period when the first suspicions develop is one of the worst. The not knowing, […]

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Infidelity, Spying Is NOT Revenge

Spying On A Lover

Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her and the other person. This is very normal. But, don’t act them out. Using what you find to extract revenge will only lengthen the time of pain and anger. It will undermine your integrity as a person, lower your personal standards and make you exceedingly unattractive. Resist the temptation to sling the mud! Keep what you […]

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Infidelity, How My Marriage Made Me Do It

Signs Of A Cheat

Ask someone why they had, or are having an affair and you may hear something like this: “I have a lousy marriage. My marriage is dead. There is no intimacy, no sex, and no excitement. The love is gone. We’ve grown apart. I can’t stand the marriage. There was nothing happening in the marriage and the affair just happened.” These statements are rationalizations and fail to “get at” the underlying issues. Key points: 1. It’s as if a marriage is an animal gone bad. A marriage does […]

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Emotional Infidelity, A KEY Tactic To Save The Marriage

Surviving An Affair

Hearing that your cheating spouse is “in love” with someone else is devastating. I hear often, “I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that. But, for her to give herself emotionally and “love” someone else…man, that is hard.” (Feel free to substitute the word he for she in this article.) What can you specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage? So often the offended spouse reacts with intense feelings and pulls out all stops to “win […]

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Characteristics of the Adulterer

Surviving An Affair

“I Want to Get Back at Him/Her” is one of 6 kinds of affairs I outline in my E-book. This is the “revenge affair.” It occurs in a marriage in which one feels slighted in some manner and seeks revenge by engaging in an affair. It is less a movement toward the other person and more a movement away from one’s spouse. The offending spouse usually lacks the skills of personal confrontation or is frightened by the prospect of someone “getting upset.” When evaluating this kind of […]

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